- Sunday, 30 August 2015 -

Getting Through a Bad Day

Hello you lovely lot! It's been rather quiet over here at Fine and Dandy hasn't it? With the hustle and bustle of moving back home coupled with my intense desire to do absolutely nothing at all, I've been badly neglecting this little corner of the web. It's been a whirlwind of a summer, and after wrapping up my time at my design internship, I felt that I deserved to unplug from the online world, if only temporarily. 

I'll admit - it's been hard getting back up on the horse and mustering the motivation to blog again, as recently my mum took ill and my commitment seemed to sway from one responsibility to the other. Its incidences like these that put everything into perspective, that family, friends, health and happiness should always take priority to everything else, and even when you're at your lowest, it does well to remember all you have going for you, even if your mind's telling you otherwise.

When you're having a bad day, it's easy to admit defeat and retreat to your bed with only your best friend Netflix to comfort you. Whereas this may seem like the perfect remedy for some, it's important that you don't wallow in your own self pity and actually practice some self-care. In other words, that gallon of cookie dough ice cream you're about to hoover up may seem like a good idea at the time, but it retrospect, you'll probably regret it! 

1/ Remove yourself from the negative space - Sometimes easier said than done when you're having a full on panic attack in your works bathroom. Even if it means stepping outside for 2 minutes to process your emotions and take a few deep breaths. Remember, EVERYONE suffers from bad days, keep in mind that this is only temporary and that tomorrow's a new day.

2/ Let it all out - I find it very cathartic to have a good cry every once in a while, as the pent up emotions flow out of you, you can find yourself feeling refreshed. Some also find it therapeutic by blasting their favourite angry music or screaming into a pillow to gain closure of a colossally bad day. Writing can also alleviate anxiety, and by physically getting it out there and putting pen to paper, it can greatly put things into perspective. 

3/ Find your escapism - Whilst some like to lay back and listen to their favourite tunes to chill, others find solace in channeling their emotions through creativity. Whether you're affording yourself some me-time by getting lost in a good book or just hitting the gym to blow off some steam, it's important to have something enjoyable to fall back on when life gets you down.

4/ Don't suffer alone - As tempting as it may seem to retreat into isolation, some have the tendency to dwell on their emotions or experiences if they're not kept busy. Whenever I feel those dark clouds looming, I like to reach out to my mum to sooth my dampened spirits. Don't feel up to human interaction? Show your pet some love as behavioural therapists have deduced that animal contact reduces stress and helps with healing.

5/ Things will look brighter in the morning... - Sleep is an amazing healer. I can't count the amount of times where a nap has done me the world of good where I wake up wondering what the hell I was worrying about in the first place. It's horrendously cliched, but sleeping on your worries and woes makes a lot of sense as a new day brings a lot of promise. 

How do you handle a bad day?

  1. Your mother will be in my thoughts and prayers, Claire! You give the most amazing advice and I swear a little sleep can always cure a worried mind <3
    She Will Be

  2. A bad day is hard for me to overcome. It's easier to overcome a bad moment. I tend to isolate myself on a bad day because I don't want to ruin anyone else's day. That or I'll call up a friend and just have a chat on the phone, bouncing off my insecurities, etc.


  3. Ohh I hope your mother is doing okay and that she makes it through this tough patch. I've been having a bit of a tough time with the family recently and am seeking to just escape it for two weeks on my holidays to Greece next thursday. But until then I will be using these tips to get me though, thank you xxx

    Fi | www.fislittleblog.com

  4. Lovely post - such good pointers! :)

    Hope your Mom is okay :)


  5. Lovely post with great tips :) Sleep is such a great healer, things always look better in the morning! xx
    Chasing Belle

  6. Loved reading this post. Lots of advice I need to take!

    Hope your mum is okay, sending hugs.

    Zoe xx

  7. I always try to remind myself that time heals most things and if I could just get through the next day and so on, things will get better. Great post lovely x

  8. Such a lovely and helpful post. Sometimes having a good cry really is needed, and I definitely find comfort in cat cuddles haha! Thank you for your tips :) x

    Polly Cat Contemplates

  9. Lovely post - really helpful. I'm going to bookmark this to read again on those bad days. I often lose myself in a good book, blast some happy, poppy tunes and/or cuddle and play with my kitten. That generally lifts me. I'll admit I'm a nightmare for retreating into myself and ignoring everyone, it's something I need to work on. But easier said than done, right? Anyway, great post. Loved it. Thanks for sharing :) x

  10. Oh no i am sorry to hear about your Mum I hope she will be okay. These are great tips, when my depression/anxiety builds up sometimes I try to not cry and let it out or tell someone but after a good old release and a really bad week of feeling sorry for myself it can start getting back to 'normal' again haha xxx


  11. I hope everything is going better for you now or will be soon. My own methods of facing a bad day are very similar to what you've suggested. I tend to shut myself away, whether literally or emotionally and just let things heal. A lot of the time that's while listening to music or doing something crafty as escapism. Just give myself time to process things. If things are really bad I'll talk to my sister about it or write a blog post as I find them very cathartic too. It's one of the reasons I started my blog. I can start a post feeling one way and by the end I've processed everything and feel so much better and often find the bright side of the situation so the post isn't a pity party! Haha. Take care.

    Sara Bloo xo

  12. Everything will work out in the end! When I'm having a bad day I let myself try and understand why, and see how I can get past it. Usually unhappiness only lasts temporarily.
    Sleep and removing yourself from the negative energy that causes it is especially important! There aren't many things that can't be solved by a little shut eye.
    Take care!


  13. A lovely post! Very useful tips :) thank you for sharing this!


  14. This is super handy for when I have meltdowns over seemingly nothing.
    Tegan xx - Permanent Procrastination

  15. I saw your picture of a cup of tea and i knew instantly that i had to read this post and i'm really glad i did. Thanks for sharing, your points are so helpful xx


  16. Great advice! I've been having too many of these days lately, unfortunately.

    With love, Be || lovefrombe

  17. Oh, my dear. xx This is so beautiful and will definitely help me get through my next bad day.
    ~ Sanjana

  18. These are some amazing tips, I think it is so important for people to be able to get through bad days and knowing that there are people around you who understand, even if it is through the internet. You are amazing.

    Love, Amie ❤
    The Curvaceous Vegan

  19. I hope you and your family are doing OK Claire - it sounds like it's been a bit of a whirlwind for you at the moment, I know how that can be. This list is really helpful though, especially for when situations like these creep up and take over! You're a lovely, thoughtful person and seeing posts like these is always a reminder to keep going and battle on through. Thank you! - Tasha

  20. I'm not sure I can cry anymore, I try but it just doesn't happen. I'm more afraid of that than the whirlwinds.



  21. I'm a crier. Afterwards, I usually feel better and can come up with a plan to fix whatever's bugging me. Or I drink wine. Wine solves almost everything.