- Wednesday, 27 August 2014 -
A Lesson in Loving Yourself
Hello my lovelies! With the world seeming like it’s spinning out of control in a chaotic climate with wars and tragedy and death, it’s sometimes difficult to summon the inner fortitude required to realise your own happiness. Whether you know me personally or we’ve simply experienced a fleeting encounter, people forever perceive me as the quintessential “positive person”. There have been numerous incidences where I’ve wandered into an unfamiliar doctors appointment where upon routinely asking me if I’m on any medication they appear genuinely shocked to learn I’m on antidepressants. I simply shrug off their comments and utter a giggly and rather nonchalant “well it looks like they’re working, doesn’t it?” I’m a believer in the philosophy that when you smile, the whole world smiles with you so when I exude such happiness, I bring it.
The world is a dangerously dark place, but a more sinister one is a person’s mind. True, there are soldiers out there in Gaza battling for their country, but there are also people sat in their own homes battling their demons, their financial instability, their self-image issues... It amazes me how often we as human beings have the tendency to immortalise one negative thing in an ocean of purely positive things - how when we have our family, our friends and our health, we can bleakly obsess over what an electronic device is telling us about our current weight. However, I too understand the plight of gaining perspective and the overwhelming inability to admit to loving yourself. Just like day and night, sometimes life can be draped in temporary shadow however it’s always imperative to remember that soon your sun will be shining brightly and with it, your chance to bask in it’s light and positivity.
In truth, it’s easier to love ourselves when life is going well but the second you feel the impending urge to scream or cry or just generally curl up in the fetal position on the floor, give yourself time to let it all out. Sometimes society isn’t so supportive of our personal woes and tends to dictate that we pick ourselves up and move on because relationships, work and life impatiently await. So, dear readers, below I’ve composed a little list of tips and tricks towards nurturing self-love, nobody’s perfect and neither are these suggestions but I hope in some way, shape or form they help to inspire you to spread the love...
Treat yourself: Be it that devilish piece of chocolate cake that’s been eyeing you up or those pair of shoes that are your leathery solemates (see what I did there?), treat yourself to something because you deserve it.
Put things into perspective: Not happy with your weight? Well, guess what? It’s not like when you were born you’re destined to be set at a certain weight - this isn’t the weight you’ll always be and you can change that.
Cut the crap: Anything that you feel may be bringing you down - bad friends, bad food, bad work - attempt to rectify by readjusting, because you deserve so much better.
Happy Claireday: Give yourself a day to indulge in anything you desire. Build a duvet fort and binge on Disney films, grieve over that job you didn’t get, have yourself a well-deserved drink after a hard day - just let yourself breath.
Make others happy: Honestly, paying people compliments, smiling at strangers and undergoing little acts of kindness will boost your positivity and have your faith in humanity restored - huzzah!
Play dress up: When you look good, you feel good. Even if you’ve got nowhere to go, get yourself out of bed and into that little black dress, sure why not even take a few selfies while you’re at it because you ARE beautiful!
Hugs, not drugs: Hugging others and being hugged is hands down one of the best feelings ever. Not a fan of hugs? Well, studies have proven that people who own pets have their loneliness eased and moods simultaneously boosted, so show your fuzzy friend some love!
Talktalktalk: Don’t bottle things up, get together with some old friends and reminisce, swallow your pride and book that appointment with a counsellor, buy yourself a journal and document your thoughts, hopes and dreams. Honestly, sharing is caring and don’t ever feel like you don’t have anyone to talk to - heck, talk to me! Maybe I can help :)